Kurt Cobain Was A Trans Woman

This is not transvetigating. Transvestigating is a term for when transphobic people point to "biological" reasons why someone is trans, and use it as a way to push the idea of some major trans agenda to turn people trans.

Calling me a transvestigator because i point out a dead person might have possibly been trans and not said, or wasn't able to say for any reason is transphobic

Kurt And Transness

Kurt Cobain grew up in the 80s and 90s, when transness wasn't really accepted, nor talked about in any large capacity. It wasn't as well understood, your average person wouldn't have known.

Dresses

Kurt wore... a LOT of dresses, I'm not just talking about on stage. they admitted to wearing them around their house, not some shameful secret that they kept hidden. They talked about enjoying wearing dresses.

They wore a gown to the "headbangers ball" because it was a ball.

"Well your cherry picking!" Maybe, I also know they said "I like to wear dresses because they're comfortable. Men wearing dresses isn't controversial." in 1993. That's true, they're right and they helped to pave way for these things to become more okay.

Fucking in Lingerie

This isn't airing any dirty laundry here, Kurt had a biography written on them, and after a show Kurt and Courtney kissed, the story goes they fucked on the bar, but that's denied, and the biographer says the truth is that they fucked while Kurt wore Courtneys lingerie

One may hear this, and think that's perverted or weird, but as a trans woman it makes sense. It makes sense why they would be aroused in that lingerie, its understandable.

Not Identifying with the guys

There's a quote where they're saying "i'm not a jock" and they didn't identify with jocks, but there's one part of the quote that sticks out "I knew I was different. I thought that i might be gay or something because i couldn't identify with any of the guys at all."

I had a similar struggle as a kid, not identifying with the jocks. Or identifying with the guys. It is what truly made me question myself and my identity. Even outcasts I knew could identify with them in the man aspect of it. I couldn't.

There's a song by Against Me! titled "drinking with the jocks" where Laura (the trans front-woman of the band) talks about trying hard to fit in with the jocks, and acting like she was one of them. Wishing she was one of them.

Just a thought. its weird right? that we associate jock-ness with man hood? that we wished we were more like them. That trans woman who deal with these things their whole life realize they didn't identify with the jocks, or the guys.

Their Eyes.

Look at a picture of Kurt Cobain, and now go on r/transtimelines. Look at the eyes.

If you can't see it then fine, but its something so obvious. Every single one of those trans people, trans women and trans men. Have this look in their eyes that is so obvious. Its like night and day seeing these peoples smiles.

I am not alone in this feeling, of being able to look at people and their eyes and see it. I cant point it out on a hunch, but you know deep down when someone has that look as a trans person.

"Well its disrespectful"

This is something i have heard a number of times, that its somehow... disrespectful to wonder if a dead person was trans. Why?

Is it disrespectful to wonder if Emily Dickinson was queer? or if Sappho was lesbian? Because straight people love to debate those things. I don't just mean debate either, straight people love to erase these identities of these people. When I say Emily Dickinson is queer, im saying that she wrote love poems to women. When straight people say she is straight, they are erasing those love poems from existence.

Historians will absolutely tell you that we don't know anything about anyone for sure. We only have to go off what we can actually see. We can't pull Emily Dickinson from the past and ask her if she loved women. We just have the signs she shown about being in to women.

It is not disrespectful to say that a cis person who has shown signs of being trans might be trans. But it is disrespectful to erase those signs and declare that person as 100% cisgender just to save your little cis heart from the cRaZy belief that they might have been trans.

The only reason cis people find that disrespectful is because you believe that being trans is derogatory. When I say that someone might have been trans, its out of love and joy for that person and the experience of being trans.

Plot Twist.

I don't care about the original debate truly. If i swayed you, then cool. Uh but it doesn't matter to me personally if Kurt was or wasn't trans, Kurt is an influence for me, So i care about that, it would be nice if they where trans.

So what is this really about? Trans people.

A tree falls in the forest.

If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it make noise? If person knows deep down that they are the wrong gender, but never say it, are they trans?

You have a right to self identify, and that means that i can not impose that you are a gender identity without you saying it. Im not imposing this identity on anyone.

What I can do however is tell you that too many trans people died, wishing they could live their authentic selves.Too many of my siblings are in graves marked by the name they hated.

If i get buried in a grave that bares a name i do not use. I hope the people who love and know me, will deface my grave with my true name.

Egg Prime Directive

In Star Trek there is the concept of the "Prime Directive" where the advanced federation will not interfere with the natural course of history for civilizations they meet that haven't naturally found space travel.

Now a lot of trans people have brought this to the concept of an Egg and being trans

an egg is someone who hasn't realized their trans yet.

Here is the deal besties. Some people take this way too far. I am not pushing someone to be trans by helping them, or telling them they might be trans.

Too many people come to this idea that you haven't to proceed with the utmost caution when it comes to someone figuring out their gender. You need to take it by a case by case basis.

Do not out this person to others, do not jump to the conclusion they are trans. You talk to them about it, you give ways to help them figure this out about themselves.

Too many trans people have died not knowing. Too many have died alone. I will not be idle and let that happen to more trans people.

Closing

This post has been done for a while, i didnt go back over and edit anything i just added the last section and then also edited the section before the plot twist.

So if my point gets muddled this section is here to lay it out a bit more flat.

It is not disrespectful to think others are trans. Because my belief someone might be trans is not derogatory of them. I am trans, I find joy and excitement and love in my transness. I want other trans people to experience those emotions as well.

I will not diminish the word trans to be palatable to cis people. If someone shows signs of being trans they deserve to know that. If they search and look and find themself and that self is not trans? then coming out the other side their still better for exploring that.

If someone shown signs of being trans in the past, i am not disrespecting them by saying that they might have been trans. If i wasnt out, but i knew i was trans. Then i died, and people came and looked through my life and found signs that i would have identified as trans. i would rather they impose that belief in their mind and tell others about that, than let me rot in the belief i wasnt.

Where I've been

I'm tired :) I dont know what future plans i have for blog posts. I have others that are all various states of finished, but ive been tired and worn out. When i get the time and feeling of effort ill work on some, but until then i am working on a visual novel and a ttrpg! Maybe ill talk about them when they release.

Love Every Trans Woman You Meet Before It's Too Late.